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From: seifert@hammer.UUCP (Snoopy)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Nominally single????
Message-ID: <1538@hammer.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 3-Oct-85 22:48:46 EDT
Article-I.D.: hammer.1538
Posted: Thu Oct  3 22:48:46 1985
Date-Received: Sat, 5-Oct-85 06:40:49 EDT
References: <285@whuts.UUCP> <533@oakhill.UUCP> <286@whuts.UUCP>
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Summary: But I'm not ready to be single!

In article <3072@ut-sally.UUCP> pooh@sally.UUCP (Pooh @ CMH) writes:
>In article <431@rti-sel.UUCP> wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly) writes:
>
>>No one is ready for a sustained and giving relationship with another
>>person until he is happy with his own life and likes and respects
>>himself as a person. 
>
>Or in other words, you're not ready to live with anyone
>else until you've lived alone enough.  
>
>Wait a minute. . .that doesn't sound right.  How do you
>learn to live with someone except by doing it?  Once you
>learn not to need anyone else, how do you learn to let them in
>again?

Let's turn that around: Once you learn *to* need someone else,
how do you learn to be happy alone?

In article <192@cylixd.UUCP> becky@cylixd.UUCP (Becky Bates) writes:

> I always believe that you can never be happy with someone else until 
> you are happy with yourself first of all.

This is worded slightly, but significantly than it usually is.
The version I usually hear is that you are supposed to be happy
BY yourself. (e.g. alone)  Bullmodems!  People are social critters,
we need friends, affection, love, etc.  Most people can handle being
alone for short periods of time, some can handle long periods.
(short and long being intentionally undefined)  But to claim that
everyone should be happy alone for long periods of time is totally
bogus.  Becky's version, however, I agree with.  You do need to be
happy with yourself to be truely happy with anything.  Which isn't
to say that one should avoid relationships until you are happy with
yourself.  The relationship may be exactly what you need to become
happy with yourself, avoiding it could be a catch-22 situation.

>>There's nothing magical about sex OR love.	{ William }
>
>Yow!  can you say "cynicism"?		{ Pooh }

"cynicism"

Can you say "William isn't doing it right"?

Oh yes, I brought a Lobster home for dinner, but she wasn't
much of a conversationalist, the only thing she said all
evening was that the linguini was undercooked.  Bloody lot
she knows about pasta.

If God had meant you to be single, you would have been born
that way!  Wait...that's not right...

Snoopy
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