Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site sdcrdcf.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!whuxlm!harpo!decvax!decwrl!Glacier!oliveb!hplabs!sdcrdcf!barryg From: barryg@sdcrdcf.UUCP (Lee Gold) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: Good ol' Mom Message-ID: <2334@sdcrdcf.UUCP> Date: Wed, 11-Sep-85 22:26:55 EDT Article-I.D.: sdcrdcf.2334 Posted: Wed Sep 11 22:26:55 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 17-Sep-85 05:27:16 EDT References: <520@osiris.UUCP> Reply-To: barryg@sdcrdcf.UUCP (Lee Gold) Distribution: net Organization: System Development Corp. R+D, Santa Monica Lines: 27 Summary: My relations with my mother are fairly close. We talk two or three times a week on the phone and see each other every week or so. We also sometimes trade books to read (I turned her on to reading science fiction). However, I don't think I modeled myself on her particularly. She's a sweet, intelligent lady but I grew up noticing that whenever she and father disagreed, we did things his way. And I prefer winning to being sweet. My father and I don't get on at all well. For years I just assumed he hated me. In my early 20s I found out I looked just like his mother who died when he was in his teens. He never implied he disliked me because I was a woman; it was because I was as opinionated and outspoken as he was. Neither of them ever behaved dishonorably to me. I grew up expecting that everyone would be truthful and keep their promises and was surprised to run into adults for whom this wasn't true. Both my parents stressed that as a woman I was free to take either the traditional male or traditional female role--or hack out my own. I ended up working part time, wearing dresses rather than slacks, and having a husband who does the cooking--a compromise path, I suppose. My husband's family doesn't understand me particularly. But then they don't understand him either. They brought up their own daughter to be cutely dependent--and they're still helping support her now that she's 36. They do tell me I'm their second daughter. *sigh* --Lee Gold Brought to you by Super Global Mega Corp .com