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From: amc@whuts.UUCP (Andy Cohill)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Nominally single????
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Date: Mon, 7-Oct-85 07:54:05 EDT
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> These people approach potential relationships with a lot of fantasies
> built up in their heads that a new relationship will somehow make
> their life better. A relationship based on fantasy will sooner or
> later come to a bad end. My claim is that a person who is happy with
> his own life is secure and mature, and will approach relationships
> with realistic expectations.

> The result is that it's easy to look at rough spots in a relationship
> or at a less-than-perfect SO after the initial sexual glow has worn
> off and convince yourself that it wasn't True Love after all and
> merrily go out to continue your search for the Real Thing. This may be
> one of the reasons why so many people seem reluctant to WORK at a 
> relationship with problems these days: it's much easier to convince
> yourself it wasn't 'real' and go on to something else.

>                         -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly

I know that this will shake up the net, but I agree with Bill's
posting one hundred percent. A relationship is a lot of work, and
has little to do with that strange chemical imbalance called 'love'
that occurs in the intial stages of some relationships.

Best regards,
Andy Cohill
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