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From: hedge@hpspkla.UUCP (hedge)
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Subject: Re: Orphaned Response
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Date: Thu, 10-Oct-85 11:47:00 EDT
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Posted: Thu Oct 10 11:47:00 1985
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Nf-From: hpspkla!hedge    Oct 10 08:47:00 1985


You generalize rather strongly about self-sufficiency being more healthy
than interdependence.  (Note: I did not say dependence.)  You are making
a value judgement as to what is healthy and normal - don't state it as
fact.  True, after a breakup, life should go on, but the self-reflection
fostered by being alone, although a source of great unhappiness, could
be valuable later.  Besides, who's to define happiness for another
individual or if happiness is even a legitimate goal.  Reality is determined
by each individual's values and the influence of their environment.  There
is really very little one person can determine about normality or happiness
of another without knowing them and their "needs" as they interpret them.

Alan Hedge
Hewlett Packard
Spokane, Washington

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