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From: ray@rochester.UUCP (Ray Frank)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Do we "need" relationships?
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Date: Mon, 14-Oct-85 09:55:03 EDT
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> In article <450@rti-sel.UUCP> wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly) writes:
> 
> 
> > You might ask yourself WHY you fear the single state and
> >are unhappy spending time with yourself.
> 
There is a difference between being single and being alone and single.
Some single people do not suffer from lonliness because they either
are very much into dating and or into activities such as bowling, volunteer 
work, etc.  But what about the single who isn't into dating or joining clubs?
This single person would literally be alone most of the time.  This doesn't
mean this single does not want to date, but perhaps is not into dating as
a way of life.  In this case an SO would be a necessity and most likely more
desirible than playing the field.

> 
> > Because that's what the verb 'need' implies in this context: a
> > feeling that you MUST have a relationship for life to be meaningful.
> 
It is true, some people MUST have a meaningful relationship for their life 
to take on a sense of completeness.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with
this type of person, we, by nature are social beings, some people are masters
at the art of meeting new people, and some people either are not as good at
meeting new people, or simply have no desire to make meeting new people a way
of life.  They just want to go about their business with one special person at
their side.

I don't believe being alone, that is, living alone and not being socially
active, is actually the natural state with which to be in, generally speaking.
I know of too many people who don't like living this type of life style, but
as the song goes: pity the shy one the unsure one.