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From: dsn@rochester.UUCP (Dana S. Nau)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Re: Nominally single???? A voice from the past.
Message-ID: <12521@rochester.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 31-Dec-69 18:59:59 EDT
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Posted: Wed Dec 31 18:59:59 1969
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Reply-To: dsn@rochester.UUCP (Dana S. Nau)
Organization: U. of Rochester, CS Dept.
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In article <1213@ames.UUCP> barry@ames.UUCP (Kenn Barry) writes:
>... I can't recall *ever* asking a woman out on a date, or anything
>with equivalent connotations, until I was *sure* that she was at least
>theoretically available. Intellectually I know that asking a married
>woman out would be an understandable and forgivable error, if she had
>never made her status clear, but, emotionally, I'd be hideously
>embarrassed, and she might be embarrassed, as well.

For me, a date need not necessarily be romantic.  I have several platonic
friendships with women where we go out on "dates" together.  One of these
woman friends happens to be married (she's an ex-girlfriend of mine!)--and
I'm friends with her husband, too.

However, I certainly agree with the rest of your point.  When I'm setting up
a date with someone, if I'm already in a committed relationship with someone
else, I want to make that clear at the outset.  And I would want her to do
so too.  Anything else would be misleading.
-- 
	Dana S. Nau (dsn@rochester)
	from U. of Maryland, on sabbatical at U. of Rochester