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From: tll@sabre.UUCP (Trudy Leonhard)
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Subject: Re: Masculinity/Femininity, baths, and conforming
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Date: Mon, 7-Oct-85 11:30:03 EDT
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I wanted to reply to "when do you feel most feminine/masculine" etc.

I feel feminine when...
I'm in the woods and I have to go to the bathroom...
I see little boys that are holy terrors ( aggressive) and
relatively pacifist little girls...
I see older boys who fight with fists and their female peers fight with
nails,teeth, pull hair - anything is fair....
I look in the mirror...
A pregnant woman walks by...
I finally find a public restroom and there is no toilet paper and
they use air dryers for your hands...
I hold a man in my arms and feel his hard body against my soft
one...
I feel like I need to cry so I do...
I challenge a male friend to an arm wrestling match and lose (some
people never learn)...
When a male friend opens up to me and I know he couldn't do that if
I was male...
I can give my mom a big hug and nobody can lift up their eyebrow and
go hmmm, obviously an outward manisfestation of the oedipus
complex...:-)

There are few other times I "feel" feminine. I'm Trudy and it's
much more important for me to "feel" most like Trudy. It's not too
surprising that women state they feel most feminine when they do
the things that they've been taught all their lives are what make up
femininity. Being a product of this society, I'M certainly not
excluded from such feelings. What bothers me is when my femininity is
foisted upon me - especially when it's sombody else's definition of
what is feminine.

Trudy