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From: tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee)
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Subject: Re: what makes you feel feminine/masculine?
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Date: Thu, 10-Oct-85 16:39:43 EDT
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>I first picked the example of a brother-sister relationship, because it 
>excludes the explicit sexual posturing of most male-female relationships.
>This allows a more "pure" examination of the interaction of masculine
>& feminine personality traits and character attributes.  

This brings up a point I'm really interested in.  The sexual posturing
of most male-female relationships.

For me, I find that it gets in the way.  I have many (at least several)
rewarding relationships with women that do not inlcude sex.  The problem
is that there is still sexual posturing.  I admit there are times I enjoy
what I call 'sexual tension' but usually I find that it somehow limits
our possibilities.

This syndrome causes the most problems early in a friendship, before both
people are sure where things are headed.  I suppose this is natural when
the possibility of sex still exists, but I wish it didn't.  It is as if
the first option is always sex, and then if that won't work one looks to
a "platonic" relationhsip.  

Got to go, but I'd like to ask "do women feel this way to?"  obviously
women dont' think as a class so this is a poll.

Peter B