Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site madvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!zehntel!varian!madvax!susan From: susan@madvax.UUCP (Susan Finkelman) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Revenge Message-ID: <349@madvax.UUCP> Date: Fri, 18-Oct-85 17:15:05 EDT Article-I.D.: madvax.349 Posted: Fri Oct 18 17:15:05 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 22-Oct-85 05:49:11 EDT References: <257@cuuxb.UUCP> <3690@dartvax.UUCP> Distribution: net Organization: Varian, Walnut Creek, CA Lines: 52 Walter, I've been holding and re-reading your response to Tom for several days, because something in it just didn't sit right. (the response is attached at the end). I realize that I am about to bring up a very messy issue that may not be appropriate for net.women, but here goes: I was beaten up by a guy I went out with my last year of high school. The bruises are gone, and, as far as prevention goes, it hasn't happend again - and it WON'T. But I've prevented it by being extremely careful of men, by not trusting anyone including my own judgement - it was pretty faulty before, remember. And it has caused me to be prepared to be more violent than I really think is right, but if anyone ever lays hand on me or my daughter, I have no intention of allowing it, or "fighting fair". I don't know what that guy is doing now, but I would prefer to know that he's in jail. Even my disinclination to support scum at state expense doesn't prevent me from hoping he's locked up and not hurting anyone else. But then I have never heard of a guy being locked up for such behavior, and certainly not punished (and no, prison is not for reform, it's for punishment or at least to keep them off the streets). I wouldn't mind a little revenge myself. I would prefer to have back a life without terror, a life where I could depend at least on the people I know behaving in a semi-decent manner, but I don't get that option. > I'm for attitude adjustment (right on top of the head with a > sawed of piece of piss-elm pick handle) for wife and child beaters. > That also goes for damned belligerant barroom brawlers. > > > This has been a public service anouncement from the Maplewood Mind > Moulders Association. Tom Frye President > > What about husband beaters, Tom. People, don't forget that Spouse Abuse goes > both ways. More over it is a symptom of peoples lack of respect for others. > Your tails and solutions are not much better than the problem, Tom. > Unfortunately lifes not fair yet. Let's work at promoting peace and solving > problems rather than getting revenge and creating more problems. Don't get the > wrong idear here. I'm not saying let anyone beat on you. If you are attacked > then it is necessary to defend you and yours but getting revenge is not going > to help as milleniums of histories of feuds show. After the attack you need to > concentrate on prevention, not revenge. > > --- --- > > /_ > -==- > iiii -Walter. > "Can anyone really hear me?"