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From: ins_asgm@jhunix.UUCP (Scott G. McNamee)
Newsgroups: net.college
Subject: Re: A Mother asks advice--this time not housing
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Date: Tue, 26-Nov-85 09:59:15 EST
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Posted: Tue Nov 26 09:59:15 1985
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> The question:  is the
> first year in the dorm important?  Will living off campus be a
> deterrent to the whole "college life" scene?  My daughter is
> out-going and very attractive--she models part time and has a
> confident, extrovert personality.  My son is content to live his
> life connected to a computer keyboard (*ANY* computer
> keyboard--not even any loyalties--is that abnormal?).  He does
> not make friends easily, and prefers to be alone most of the
> time.  Does he need the dorm life more than she?        
> 
> One other request for advice:  if I were YOUR mother, would you
> prefer I get the heck out of your life and let you make all the
> same mistakes everyone else makes or would you prefer that I
> continue to research my database and offer suggestions?  (BTW,
> I only offer suggestions--I never say "Do it this way!")
> 
>                 Joyce Andrews  AT&TIS, Indianapolis
>                    ihnp4!inuxd!jla
> 

	I think it's great that you care for your children so much that you
would go to all this trouble.  Even though I wouldn't trade my mom for the
world, if you were her, I would appreciate all the help, so long as you
realize that my decisions, on anything, are ultimately mine.  If I feel
that it is more important to actually experience something even though I
might get burned (and it doesn't break any serious morals that you've
raised me with :-), back me up on those after you've given your advice.

	Regarding the first year in school, the situation here at the Hop
is such that the first year ONLY is spent in the dorms.  After freshmen
year, you're out to off campus housing.  I spent the first year off campus
because they ran out of room.  Like your daughter, I'm very outgoing and
will create my own social life and as such, I had a great first year.
However, now that I'm almost out of school, I miss that first bizzare year
of dorm life.  Even though she'll do well socially whether or not she is on
campus, I think she'd miss a lot not being in the dorms.  As for your son,
I STRONGLY suggest (since I can't say "Do it this way!" :-) that he take
that first year on campus.  It'll teach him a great deal about people that
it sounds like he really needs to learn.  Besides, he'll have a blast!
Keep up the good work!

-- 

Scott McNamee  
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