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From: tlm@wdl1.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Re:Re:Re: Nominally single???? A voi
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Date: Tue, 12-Nov-85 21:25:19 EST
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Posted: Tue Nov 12 21:25:19 1985
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Nf-From: wdl1!tlm    Nov 12 18:04:00 1985


Bithead,

	First I'll say that I think your response to Laura Creighton
belongs in net.flame because there was very little substance in your 
response, only sarcasm, annoyance, distaste and rudeness.  
 
	More importantly, I believe you missed her point.  Sounds to me
like Laura dislikes phony people who are only interested in dating her
because they desperately need a girlfriend, not because she is 
interesting, fun, a good person, etc...  Many folk want an SO for
all the wrong reasons.  Maybe being rude is not the most diplomatic way 
to discourage this behavior, but it will stop such behavior and maybe 
open a few eyes.

I also don't think Laura
implied that she merely wanted entertainment from men.  When I first
meet someone, I too look for fun, interesting, and intelligent folk.  
If someone new is depressed or sad or whiney I always give them at least
one more try, maybe 2 or 3.  I try to be understanding and do a little 
give and take, but I don't try forever.  Someone who is continually whiney 
will eventually turn me off; maybe Laura's tolerance for that type of 
behavior is lower. 

And as for your guess at Laura's perspective:

              >> I. Men exist to entertain us.
              >> II. The moment a man fails to entertain - dump him !
              >> There's always more where that came from. 

I really could not see how you arrived at this conclusion from her
postings.  Again, I don't like dating new folk that are always phony and whiney.
I want both give and take; I can't give all the time without wanting 
something back, like a good conversation or a fun evening.  Existing  
relationships are different however.  I am more inclined
to give longer and more in an already established relationship.
Boyfriends/Girlfriends can have bad days/weeks/months and I'll live
put up with it for awhile.  I don't have the time to invest the same
amount of time into every new person I meet.  

I also got a different impression from her phrase "keep going out with lots
of different ones".  I took it to mean that not anyone will do and
you have to spend a lot of time looking for the right person. 
Dating a lot of people does not necessarily imply lack of maturity.
Maybe Laura has just not found anyone that she wants to get involved
with yet.  There is a big difference between consciously choosing not
to make commitments and being unable to.
 
> Dinner dates are a real acid test aren't they?

Where did she imply that this was her only criterion?  

Your attack on Laura Creighton was unprovoked and out of line.
I had better stop here; I don't want to resort to the same kind of 
sarastic remarks and criticisms.

Tina McCormick

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