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From: tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee)
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Subject: Re: How Do We Love?
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Date: Thu, 21-Nov-85 21:27:40 EST
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Love.

I agree with Ken, love rarely depends on looks, or particular actions.  But
actions can count - for instance I know many people who would never ever become
involved with a smoker, they feel that smoking is indicative of personality
traits they don't like.  In the same way, the women I love all tend to be
risk-takers.

For me, love depends on something that is a mystery to myself.  Do I anticipate
(anticipate, not drool for) an opportunity to be with this person?  Like "oh
great, Kathy will be at Charlie's party", or "there's Sarah, I'll sit with her
for lunch".  And do I feel good about giving of myself to them?  It's pretty
easy to give yourself, and I try to allow myself to give even when I may be
still ambivilant about the person, but how do I feel later?  Taken?  Fulfilled?

There is really only one "kind" of love methinks, but I know I behave
differently according to sex.  In some ways that's okay (John probably doesn't
want me to suggest an intimate conversation between the sheets), but in other
ways it is unfortunate.  Ah, and yet another area within to grow.

Peter B