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From: michaelm@3comvax.UUCP (Michael McNeil)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: How Do We Love?
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Date: Fri, 22-Nov-85 20:05:09 EST
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Posted: Fri Nov 22 20:05:09 1985
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> [not approved by Committee for a Macho Net; parental discretion advised]
> 
> While this net has gone over (with predictable results) the question,
> "What is love?" I don't recall seeing anyone discuss the question of how
> people become in love with each other.  I intentionally avoided using the
> word "fall" in the previous sentence; many of you perceive a distinction
> between loving and being in love, perhaps based on degree of commitment,
> but I would like to consider both together.  Specifically, how does it
> become that one person attains a high degree of commitment to another?  
> A related and interesting converse is the question, why does one's
> commitment to another sometimes decrease sharply?
> 
> Ken Kaufman (uiucdcs!kaufman)

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	... at the basis of human thought lies the judgement of
	what is like and what is unlike.  In picking out what we
	shall call alike, we make the basic judgement, that here
	is something which is important to us.  We do this when
	we say that men are like women, or that the earth is like
	the planets, or that the air is like wine.  Aldous Huxley
	in his novel *Barren Leaves* speculates at length about
	the word 'love' in different European languages; but I,
	coming to England as a boy, was struck more by the
	existence in English alone of the verb 'to like.'  
		Jacob Bronowski, 1967, *The Common Sense of Science*