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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
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Subject: Re: individuality (or lack thereof) <= men do it too
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Date: Wed, 4-Dec-85 15:19:03 EST
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> One of my net friends asked me why feminists
> always assume that their insecurities are unique to women.  Well the
> answer, as far as I can tell, is that they don't assume that at all.

  No, but they often only seem concerned about how the particular insecurity
in question affects *women*, which can often cause others to think that's
all they notice, instead of being concerned with how it affects *people*. 
This "exclusive" attitude tends to drive men and women further apart, which
as far as I understand it is *not* one of the goals of the feminist 
movement. :-) This attitude also tends to discourage men from participating
in the feminist movement, even those who may be in line with most of the
goals of that movement.

> I do need to add, however, that the so-called insecurities that lead
> a person into this behavior often (but not always) manifest themselves
> differently in men and women.  

  I suspect that this is in *general* true due to differences in society's
expectations of men and women, but of course there are always individual 
variations.

> You'll rarely see a man say "Anything you say dear" and MEAN it.  

  That depends on what "MEAN it" means. Often people willingly sacrifice their
own "self-interest" on a specific issue because it is more important to someone
they care about than it is to them. I really don't think this is sex-specific.
My experience is that *all* people do this to a greater or lesser extent
dependent on the individual. I have seen nothing to indicate more of a tendency
for one sex to do this than the other.

--Greg
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