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From: cheryl@lasspvax.UUCP (Cheryl Stewart)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Otherwise Engaged
Message-ID: <684@lasspvax.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 14-Nov-85 10:11:42 EST
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Posted: Thu Nov 14 10:11:42 1985
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References: <632@oliveb.UUCP> <570@tymix.UUCP> <633@oliveb.UUCP>
Reply-To: cheryl@lasspvax.UUCP (Cheryl Stewart)
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Summary: 

In article <633@oliveb.UUCP> toml@oliveb.UUCP (Tom Long) writes:
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>	I have often heard it said, "Behind every successful man stands
>a woman".  I believe that this must at least in general be true.  Among
>the benefits of a happy marriage is that the man carries a certain amount
>of flexibility and good-naturedness and level-headedness to work with him.

By a man's flexibility in a "happy marriage" you must mean that the 
wifey follows him wherever his career takes him, rather than having
any dedication to any career of her own.

>	I think one can sum up the experiences reported in the book by
>applying the same phrase in the opposite direction:  "Behind every successful
>woman stands a man".

Right.  Mine irons my shirts for me every morning.  Takes the kids to school.
Vaccuums the stairs.  Throws lovely parties.  Is even willing to go back
to work for awhile, if I decide to go back to school.

>	The women in the study who (when confronted with conflicts between
>career and marriage) chose to sacrifice their career progress in favor of
>the marriage were more successful in their *careers* in the long run, and
>on average. 

That's what they all say.  If you made a decision like that (to sacrifice
career for marraige), you'd feel obligated to defend the validity of that
decision, too.  How do they measure success, hmm?

Cheryl