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From: susan@madvax.UUCP (Susan Finkelman)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: Seeking to Adopt an Infant
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Date: Tue, 10-Dec-85 10:37:54 EST
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> Generally its a very bad idea for the true parents to know the adopted 
> parents.  I know of two couples that have made the mistake, my aunt and
> uncle, and a couple in my church.
> 
> 
> If both cases there were long battles over custody.  In both cases the
> adoptive parents won, but it was a very heart wrenching experience for
> all parties invovled.

Yeah, but in the only family I know where everyone knew everyone, it
worked out very well.  The child is now in her mid-20s and NOT searching
for mythical parents.  And I saw many, many cases of children raised
informally but totally by relatives without any legal hassles for
anyone.  Like everything, it just depends on the folks.

  Susan Finkelman
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