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From: mat@mtx5a.UUCP (m.terribile)
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Subject: Re: Re: "Mine, mine, all mine" -- help
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Date: Sun, 29-Dec-85 00:41:01 EST
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> > > In article <32700036@hpfcla.UUCP> ajs@hpfcla.UUCP writes:
> > > >Any good advice on "helping" a toddler gently through her "I own it all
> > > >and you can't have it" phase?  Rational answers like "no you don't, I
> > 
> > I only have two, fiarly close in age and the best thing I've come up with
> > is when I hear them fighting over anything, I calmly walk over, take the
> > object in question, walk to the garbage can (in sight of both of them) and
> > deposit the offending item.  This may or may not be accompanied by something
> > like. "Keep fighting and ALL your toys will be in the garbage."
> > I've only done it three times, the third being the clincher.
> > It was the oldest ones favorite Barbie doll!
> > 					Addison
> > 					ihlpa!ibyf
> 
> YIKES!  I can't see what your kids about supposed to learn except that 
> you won't take the time to teach them how to work out their differences.
> Would you please expound on this?
> 
> Mike Clifford

These comments come from a non-parent, so take them for what they're worth:

	I think that this is a wonderful solution.

	We have too many people going around enjoying negative-sum behavior.
These are people who don't understand and don't care that they are causong
others suffering.  If kids learn early enough to associate their selfishness
with suffering, there might be a lot less of it.  Remember, King Solomon did
this trick, too.

	As someone pointed out, this may also lead the kids to work things
out themselves, rather than yelling for mommy.  Now if some of us adults would
settle things reasonably like well-trained children without taking people to
court for leaving the hole in the barbed wire on top of the fence that the
8-year-old climbed over to eat the green apples that gave him the tummyache ...
-- 

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