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From: djw@lanl.ARPA
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Subject: Re: sensitivity
Message-ID: <35414@lanl.ARPA>
Date: Fri, 27-Dec-85 17:27:03 EST
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Posted: Fri Dec 27 17:27:03 1985
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Reply-To: djw@a.UUCP (Dave Wade)
Organization: Where God decreed skies should be purple and the beaches are 1000 miles long.
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In article <362@l5.uucp> laura@l5.UUCP (Laura Creighton) writes:
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>A great many people do not figure out *why* they are feeling
>what they are feeling.
>
I have had a number of friends over the years who not only wouldn't try to
figure out *why*; but would argue that their life style was eminently
pleasing and besides, it's none of my business.

One became a "holy man"
and made lots of money explaining "auras" and "astral travel" to middle-
aged housewives.  He sent out a monthly newsletter and their cards and
letters and checks seemed to "prove" that he was successful.  He couldn't
get a date and was a virgin at 30, but he was successful.  He was not
responsible for anyone but himself.  He has accepted his particular
position in life...

Another is a very gentle man
a programmer of no special repute who has allowed himself to become very
large because it makes no difference to his current lifestyle.  His
current lifestyle has been dictated by the lack of interest ladies showed
him before he became so fat.  Now he is no longer responsible for others
reactions to him; he is reasonably happy with his gun collection and his
trailer house.  He has accepted his particular position in life...

Another is a sandalmaker
and has finally moved out of Sacramento into the Oregon hills.  He was
very responsible for my being the person I am.  He makes sandals because
welding isn't as satisfying.  He taught me a lot about ladies back in the
60s.  He lives now, quite happily, with two women in a cabin in Oregon.  The
cabin has no electricity and a stream runs through the livingroom.  He has
accepted his particular position in life.

I think we could all imagine that the sandalmaker's life would be under
control;  we might even accept that the guru is happy in an evil/manipulative
way; but the fat man needs help...

But they have all "chosen" to be what they are...  The Sandalmaker had a
horrible divorce and thinks of women as young men with tits, The fat man
rarely thinks of women ( except his movie star sister and while listening
to Ronstadt records ), and the guru thinks only of power...  BUT each is
complete and happy, why do I worry about them.

Dave Wade
Los Alamos National Laboratory
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