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From: bytebug@felix.UUCP (Roger L. Long)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: sensitivity
Message-ID: <585@felix.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 29-Nov-85 13:50:07 EST
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Posted: Fri Nov 29 13:50:07 1985
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Reply-To: bytebug@felix.UUCP (Roger L. Long)
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In article <652@unc.unc.UUCP> goodrum@unc.UUCP (Cloyd Goodrum) writes:
>				When this discussion about being responsible
>for one's emotions was going on (and on and on :-) before, there was one
>very important point that was not brought up. It's been my experience that
>you can't do a lot about your emotions by trying to do something about them.
>It's a lot like trying not to think about elephants. If someone tells you not
>to think about elephants, all you're going to be thinking about is elephants
>and how you're not supposed to think about them.
>	Likewise, if you keep thinking "I shouldn't be depressed" or "I've
>got to stop being angry", more likely than not you'll think about your 
>depression or anger and whatever is causing it.
>	So what do you do?? I've never found a better solution than just
>waiting. And while you're waiting, you should try not to nurse your negative
>emotion. That IS something you can take responsibility for. Instead of thinking
>about whatever's bothering you, think about C code or Elizabethan history
>or your favorite aunt or anything else you find interesting. You can't think
>about two things at once.

I've avoided reading net.singles for awhile, so I missed the discussion on 
being responsible for one's own emotions.  But to suggest that you will feel
better by thinking about something else is *not* accepting responsibility
for your emotions.

In the LifeSpring trainings, you are taught that "What you resist, persists."
Resisting your emotions by thinking about pink elephants doesn't make them
go away.  When you get done thinking about pink elephants, they'll be back.

You really need to get that it is your *choice* to feel depressed, or angry,
or whatever.  And that you can choose to feel great if you want to.

But since there's already been discussion about all of this, I won't go into
it any further.  Other than to say that it really works.
-- 
	Roger L. Long
	FileNet Corp
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