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From: early@tonto.DEC (the higher we climb, the better the view)
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Subject: re: I want/need emotional
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Date: Mon, 6-Jan-86 13:32:58 EST
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Subject: Re: I want/need emotions

>..description of emotional inhibition applies to gay 
>men as well,  though maybe with lesser force for some.  It can be seen in 
>a lot of behavior  in  public  (bars,  social events, meetings, etc.) and 
>private (please fill in here).    More  importantly,  it goes deeper than 
>surface  conduct and affects things that  underlie  personalities  (basic 
>attitudes, drives, potentials):  I think many  of  the  manifold problems 

Speaking as a het, and having had some very close male friends over the
years, I feel there is an "environmental heredity" against close male 
relationships.   I  can  only  count three (poor me) really close friends 
that were so  close  and  emotionally  involved  that I questioned my own 
sexuality (because 'MEN' aren't  supposed  to  feel that way).  Today, I 
still have one really close friend, but distancing is setting in, as time 
goes by, and the daily contact  is  missing.   I think this is one of the 
poverty areas of human relationships we've failed to grasp, thinking more 
in  terms  of  power, prestige, and maybe performance.    I  had  thought 
(probably  not  true)  that  gays  had  a  corner  on    this  commodity.  
Apparently,judging by what I've read here, that is false.

			bob early
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