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From: flaps@utcs.uucp (Alan J Rosenthal)
Newsgroups: net.motss
Subject: Re: I want/need emotions
Message-ID: <1050@utcs.uucp>
Date: Sat, 11-Jan-86 12:52:55 EST
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Posted: Sat Jan 11 12:52:55 1986
Date-Received: Sat, 11-Jan-86 13:16:17 EST
References: <227@decwrl.DEC.COM>
Reply-To: flaps@utcs.UUCP (Alan J Rosenthal)
Organization: University of Toronto
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Summary: 

In article <227@decwrl.DEC.COM> boroff@bagels.DEC (E. Boroff) writes:
>It totally blew me away to find that most of the contributing men agreed
>more-or-less with the following extract. I would *explode* if I was unable
>to express myself emotionally to friends and intimate partners. Are we really
>that different?!?!

I don't think that ALL heterosexual men are like this, but I think that MOST
are.  Remember, heterosexuals have it very different in the sense that,
especially with so much made of the differences between women and men, their
sex partner is DIFFERENT from them in some presumably fundamental sense.  It
seems to me that many heterosexual men figure that if they don't tell a woman
that they have emotions, she might never know.  A gay man can't assume that,
because he knows that his partner knows that men have emotions, being one
himself.  A heterosexual man can count (usually successfully) on quite a bit
of ignorance about men from his partner.

Alan J Rosenthal
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