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From: barry@ames.UUCP (Kenn Barry)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Headhunters, hearthunters.
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Date: Sat, 18-Jan-86 17:10:08 EST
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Posted: Sat Jan 18 17:10:08 1986
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[Jack Orenstein compares relatives finding dates for us, and headhunters
finding us jobs]:

>The questions are: what are the differences between these two situations?
>Why might someone be willing to be fixed up for a job but not for a date
>(or vice versa)? How do you handle a relative who tries to fix you up?

	Actually, I've always cooperated when a relative fixed me up with a
date. These dates have never been very successful, but I've only been set up
by relatives a couple of times, so I haven't become wary about it.
	I have a theory about why set-ups by relatives don't come off, while
dates arranged by friends frequently do. Basically, it's that we pick our
friends, but not our relatives. We are therefore likely to have a larger basis
of common interests and common perceptions with our friends than with our
relatives. Not only will our friends probably better understand what kind of
people we like, they're also more likely to *know* the kind of people we like,
again because friends are more likely to travel in orbits similar to ours than
rellies are. And one other problem: close relatives, like mothers, often
assume they know our best interests better than we do, and choose dates for us
accordingly; friends are less likely to do this.

-  From the Crow's Nest  -                      Kenn Barry
                                                NASA-Ames Research Center
                                                Moffett Field, CA
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