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From: chris@pyuxc.UUCP (R. Hollenbeck)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Headhunters and Being Fixed Up
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Date: Mon, 20-Jan-86 10:02:52 EST
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Posted: Mon Jan 20 10:02:52 1986
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>The questions are: what are the differences between these two situations?
>Why might someone be willing to be fixed up for a job but not for a date
>(or vice versa)? How do you handle a relative who tries to fix you up?
>(I may post my own strategy at some time - it requires a relative with a
>sense of humor.) My experience is that my mother and aunts get into this
>sort of stuff. My father doesn't and my uncles don't. (Although Uncle Ben
>DID say, "go ahead, call her up, make your aunt happy".) Have other people
>noticed this? Any explanations?

I think there are certain things that people believe should
happen "naturally," i.e., that they should know how to do
instinctively, such as finding people to date, getting
married, staying married, having children,
bringing up children, and staying sane.  
If you suggest to people that they might need help
in any of these areas, they might be highly insulted,
because their initial reaction is the same as yours;
what's wrong with me that I can't do this myself.

Looking for a job isn't looked on as something that
comes naturally, I don't think, so there's less
aversion to it.   


Just an opinion, of course.