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From: amc@mhuxd.UUCP (Andy Cohill)
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Subject: Re: Mid-Life Crisis (really relationships)
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Date: Wed, 22-Jan-86 07:40:05 EST
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I said:
> > Some of my best women
> > friends categorically refuse even to "date", or whatever we call it
> > these days, preferring to concentrate on their career instead.

Amazon says:
> 
> Actually, I'd like to "date"; it's just that you take your average
> CS person who works a nominal 40-hour week (which is often more
> like 60), add school into the mix, throw in a couple of corollary
> organizations, and add the time to maintain existing friendships,
> and you don't have a whole lot of time left over.  If he can
> feel that dating would mean leaning over my shoulder in the CS lab
> as I debug my latest homework, fine. 
> 	BUT, Andy, realize this:
> If I didn't work, I wouldn't *have* a home to stay in.  That's
> the curse of every self-supporting individual.  I'd be happy
> to make the economic exchange...my labor in our household for his
> monetary support.  It just hasn't happened yet, and I cannot
> wait for Prince Charming to show up without doing something
> to support myself in the meantime.
> 	Any advice now?
> 	

You must have the impression that I am independently wealthy, and
spend all my time dating. I have been working fifty and sixty hours weeks
for so long now that it is beginning to feel "normal". Nonetheless,
I *make* the time for at least one or two social events each week. I
do not have much sympathy for people that rationalize that they are
"too busy" to develop new relationships or maintain old ones. I do
not think you said exactly this, but perhaps you get my drift...
YOu do not meet people by waiting around for them to find you. You
have to put yourself in situations where you can find each other.

And I hope this does not trigger a re-hash of how to meet people..

Best regards,
Andy Cohill