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From: cheryl@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU (cheryl)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Mid-Life Crisis (really relationships)
Message-ID: <168@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU>
Date: Mon, 20-Jan-86 17:06:53 EST
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Posted: Mon Jan 20 17:06:53 1986
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In article <2340@reed.UUCP> thoma@reed.UUCP (Ann Muir Thomas) writes:
>
>(The original article was about a mid-30's woman who was discovering that
>a good career alone is not enough for happiness.)
>
>Many times I have wondered what I am giving up in terms of friends/family
>in order to pursue a degree & career (hopefully) in psychology.  When I
>escape the ivory tower at age 27 or so, will I have found that life has passed
>me by?  What I so often find missing in my life is love, and far too many
>of the people in my environment "don't have the time" for "silly" things...

It's better than realizing at age 37 or so that your marriage is a 
truly "silly" thing, and that, since you gave up your economic
independence for this wonderful thing called love, that your're going
to spend the rest of your life broke, divorced AND lonely.  If you
opt for the job, you're only lonely.  A good career may not be enough
for happiness, but throwing yourself away on some man isn't going to
make you happy either.

Cheryl