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From: debray@sbcs.UUCP (Saumya Debray)
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Subject: Re: Mid-Life Crisis (really relationships)
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Date: Thu, 23-Jan-86 08:55:40 EST
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>>What I so often find missing in my life is love, and far too many
>>of the people in my environment "don't have the time" for "silly" things...
> 
> It's better than realizing at age 37 or so that your marriage is a 
> truly "silly" thing, and that, since you gave up your economic
> independence for this wonderful thing called love, that your're going
> to spend the rest of your life broke, divorced AND lonely.  If you
> opt for the job, you're only lonely.  A good career may not be enough
> for happiness, but throwing yourself away on some man isn't going to
> make you happy either.
> 
> Cheryl

Of course, if you begin with the premise that love is a "truly silly thing",
it'll probably end up being self-fulfilling.  Until then, try explaining to
the sad and lonely successes how economically astute their career decisions
were.

In some naive, idealistic way, I believe that happiness and peace of mind
are worth more, in the long run, than riches and fame.  I'd rather die
poor-and-happy than rich-and-miserable (though being happy-and-rich has its
advantages, to be sure! :-).  For this reason, I just can't understand
reasoning along the lines of "Well, love and marriage just possibly might
not work out, so why risk it? let's hack careers instead".
-- 
Saumya Debray
SUNY at Stony Brook

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