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From: tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee)
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Subject: Re: Mid-Life Crisis (really relationships)
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Date: Thu, 23-Jan-86 16:09:49 EST
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Cheryl Stewart writes;

>It's better than realizing at age 37 or so that your marriage is a 
>truly "silly" thing, and that, since you gave up your economic
>independence for this wonderful thing called love, that your're going
>to spend the rest of your life broke, divorced AND lonely.  If you
>opt for the job, you're only lonely.  A good career may not be enough
>for happiness, but throwing yourself away on some man isn't going to
>make you happy either.

And I wanted to throw myself away on some women...:-)

But seriously, we (especially me) need a little bit more optimism than
this, don't we?  I think the important part is to refrain from financial
dependence.  In today's society it is more common for women to become
financially dependent but men can do it too.  

Personally, I figure the next time I get married (probably not a legal
marriage, but my personal realization of marriage) it will be to a women
who will not become dependent on me.  Why?  First, there are less women
willing to do that, second I don't ususlly like them anyway.

We all know many aspects of today's stereotypical roles suck the big one,
but don't we also see some light, some change?  If we give up on marriage
the institution will die, wouldn't it better to redefine societies
expectations of marriage?

I know, I know, this has all been said before but I had just read about
7 positive postings in a row and it felt so good...

Peter B
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