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From: linda@amdcad.UUCP (Linda Seltzer)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Career vs. Relationship?
Message-ID: <8678@amdcad.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 24-Jan-86 21:44:53 EST
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Posted: Fri Jan 24 21:44:53 1986
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Summary: Men have often lived where the wife chooses ... Not wimps ...

In article <8653@amdcad.UUCP>, phil@amdcad.UUCP (Phil Ngai) writes:
> In article <2341@reed.UUCP> ellen@reed.UUCP (Ellen Eades) writes:
> >It probably seems selfish of me to flatly expect that any SO of
> >mine, particularly any male, must allow me to do all these
> >things I've planned for myself, but remember that men have
> >expected this of women for centuries.  In my life, I intend to
> >turn the tables, and I expect that anyone who is radical enough
> >to tolerate me for long periods of time will understand this.
> >If there aren't that many around who will ... at least I'll be
> >finding quality when I find one.
> 
> Or a wimp.

There are many cases in which a couple moves to the location of the
wife's family, because the wife wants to be near her mother while
raising children.  I have seen men move the location of a wife's
career several times - usually it has to do with which person is more
established or which has more options.  It has little to do with
loss of love - if a person loves you, doesn't he want the best for you.
I wouldn't call men "wimps" for moving to be in the location chosen
by the wife - many men I know who did this are highly successful
and even famous in their fields.