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From: lotto@talcott.UUCP (Jerry Lotto)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: Re: How do I get my kid off the bottle?!
Message-ID: <561@talcott.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 1-Feb-86 14:44:16 EST
Article-I.D.: talcott.561
Posted: Sat Feb  1 14:44:16 1986
Date-Received: Sun, 2-Feb-86 05:57:22 EST
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Organization: Harvard Univ. Chem. Dept.
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Summary: I am not convinced, Care != Permission

In article <1315@gitpyr.UUCP>, jkr@gitpyr.UUCP (J. Kenneth Riviere) writes:
> In article <2904@randvax.UUCP> jeanette@rand-unix.UUCP (Jeanette Haritan) writes:
> >
> >A child HAS to give up the bottle at a certain time.  You don't want him
> >to start his first day in kindergarten with his bottle simply because HE
> >still wants it at that age.  
>  Why not. How does it hurt you? How does it hurt the child? 
>  O, you would be embarrassed because other people believe a child
>  should be off the bottle by then. Well, if you care more about others
>  reactions then your childs feelings, thats your, or should I say your
>  childs, problem.
>                                Jean McSpadden

	Resisting the impulse to flame all over...

I do NOT want my daughter to feel that anything goes if it feels good.
Her feelings are most important to me, but I don't want to teach her
that they should ALWAYS be most important to HER. She may be a parent
someday. Compassion, 'acceptable' behavior and consideration for others
must be learned too.

How would you feel if your parents had left you to learn that everyone
out there doesn't agree with you by setting you up for public ridicule
unawares? Or don't you realize how cruel kids can be to each other?
-- 

Gerald Lotto - Harvard Chemistry Dept.

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