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From: hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (The Polymath)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.singles
Subject: Re: Beach harassment
Message-ID: <118@ttidcc.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 27-Jan-86 20:18:12 EST
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Posted: Mon Jan 27 20:18:12 1986
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Summary: 

In article <1167@homxb.UUCP> joey@homxb.UUCP (joey) writes:
>The strings that some women wear on the beach nowadays 
>only do one thing...tease

This is the  second  article  of  this  general  nature  I've  seen  posted
recently.  Since  others  have already posted appropriate flames in reply I
thought I'd have a  try  at  analyzing  the  underlying  attitude  implied.
Perhaps the original posters can gain some insights while recovering in the
burn ward.

Come, let us reason together ...

It's been my experience that very few women deliberately set out  to  tease
and  frustrate men for the fun of it.  When a man feels teased it's usually
because a woman isn't responding to him  in  the  manner  _he_  thinks  she
should.  The  logic  seems  to run something to the effect of "I'm sexually
attracted to you {for whatever reason},  therefore  you  are  obligated  to
fulfill  my  fantasy.".  There's  also  some ego-protection going on in the
form of "There's nothing wrong with me, so your rejection of me must be  an
act designed to tease.".

Reasoning like the above can lead an otherwise intelligent man to  conclude
he's  being  teased  because an attractive woman is wearing beach attire at
the beach.

I've learned to avoid the  pain  and  frustration  of  these  fallacies  by
keeping one simple principle in mind:

     _Any_ woman has the right to say "NO" and mean it _any  time  she
     wants  to_  and  _need  not  justify_  her  reasons for doing so.
     Period.  Paragraph.

Any man who refuses to accept and honor this principle is no better than  a
common rapist.

If a man thinks he's been or being teased he has a perfect right  to  leave
the  situation  and  have nothing further to do with the woman in question.
He _does not_ have _any_ right to force his attentions on her or in any way
try to make her behave as he thinks she should.

Now a thought experiment for the male readers:

Imagine you are 5'2" tall and weigh 100 lbs.  You are an attractive man and
dress accordingly.  While sunning on the beach, in your bikini swim suit, a
6'4", 200 lb. homosexual man walks  up  and  tries  to  pick  you  up.  You
politely  decline  but  he  refuses  to  leave  and begins to show signs of
irritation at your continued rejections.  He finally leaves in a huff,  and
half  an hour later the same thing happens with a different man.  This goes
on all the time you're at the beach, every time your at the beach.

Ladies:  Is the above a fair analogy?

[Note: The above is in no way intended to represent the behavior of gay men
       as a group or any particular individual.]

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