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From: chris@pyuxc.UUCP (R. Hollenbeck)
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Subject: Re: CONDOMS
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Date: Wed, 29-Jan-86 09:40:20 EST
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Posted: Wed Jan 29 09:40:20 1986
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>> To me love encompasess more than physical actions and this is a very
>> serious subject.  People have become so conditioned and de-sensitized
>> about pre-maritial sex.  Yes it is a very tempting act and it is hard
>> to refuse if you truly care about another.  SOme folks don't care if
>> it is with a total stranger (I never figured this out).  How can one
>> live with oneself and sleep around with several people and not feel
>> any lack of self-respect?  I think you not only cheapen your life by
>> a relaxed sex life but also the people who have been your partners.

>Amen.  Thanks Becky,  for having the courage to go against the grain.
>It is not often enough that light is shed on this subject from the point
>of view you advocate.  We all need to be reminded occasionally that not
>all the people agree with all that is happening around them in the area of
>pre-marital sex.  

>mine on.  You can expect a lot of flames coming your direction, but this is
>a small price to pay to be free of the demands and whims of a fickle society.

True, Becky has the courage of her convictions, but she is also 
arrogant in assuming that what is true for her is true for everyone.
Witness the following from the same posting quoted above:

>>I think most healthy people that are truly honest with themselves wants
>>a true and lasting love relationship and friendship.  Why make it worse
>>by accepting less than you expect out of a partner?  Why substitute sex
>>for what you would really like and that is love.  Total love from 
>>another not for your looks, or abilities, or past, but for you.  Above

Why do you assume EVERYONE is looking for love all the time?
Perhaps some really are seeking sex at a given moment/period
of time.  What gives you the right to say that such people cheapen themselves?

Becky, this is a free country.  You have the right to think, do,
and say anything you want.  You have exercised your
freedom of speech, and no one should deny you that right.
But I think the exercise of the freedom of speech
carries with it the responsibility to have
some level of awareness of the
difference between disagreeing with others and saying that they're
wrong, as you do above.  I'm sure you spoke honestly about
your feelings and your actions, but please do not presume
that they are correct for all of us;
some of us really do feel differently from you about these things.