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From: booter@lll-crg.ARpA (Elaine Richards)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Miss Manners Goes to the Beach
Message-ID: <1234@lll-crg.ARpA>
Date: Wed, 5-Feb-86 02:59:21 EST
Article-I.D.: lll-crg.1234
Posted: Wed Feb  5 02:59:21 1986
Date-Received: Fri, 7-Feb-86 09:54:17 EST
Organization: Cadillac Ranch, Oakland
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Keywords: Sunglasses,Bods

I have been reading with great amusement, the articles on hard times at the
beach. What we have here is a universal lack of manners.

Gentlemen, if you want to *stare* at a demi-nude on the beach, wear sunglasses.
This way she isn't totally aware of your fascination. If she gets nervous
and hollers at you (Many victims of molestation have been stared at prior
to the act-myself included) say, "I am sorry, I was justifiably distracted."
Compliments often quell female rage.

	Adults should be prepared for all modes of undress.
(My opinion) People have their own reasons for nudity.  These include
enjoying the breeze through their nether fur, wanting an all over tan
to impress the folks at the gym, or forgetting the Speedo. If you are
bringing children, of course you are entitled to concern. Otherwise,
stay cool.

	 You are not the "target" of their action. No one goes to the beach
saying, "I think I'll rattle Booter's cage today by wearing pasties." Being
cool also serves another purpose. If you are annoyed because you feel the
deminude is vying for attention, IGNORE her/him. This will discourage show-
offs and give people looking for a good tan some peace and quiet.

	It almost goes without saying that if a MOTOS reacts negatively to
you, it is based on their standards of behavior and upbringing. If they say
no, mumble "sorry!" and split. If they way "no" in a really nasty way (due
to fear (YES!!!) or lack of a better way to put it), you may go as far as
saying "Gee, fella/lady sorry for living." Then leave. There are lots of
nice people you can meet somewhere else. Why make a scene?

	My impression of being approached in public. I am from NYC. I have
been mugged, groped, pinched, and obstructed from getting from point a to
point b by strange men. If a man is STARING at me I get nervous and walk away.
If a man comes up to me (in a street, bars I can handle - bouncers,you know)
and passes a line, I will try to get out of the conversation. Sometimes
I am very rude. It is because I am very afraid. I dress very modestly
due to easy sunburns and a Catholic upbringing.  I still get hassled! I
hate it. I am usually deep in thought when I am walking and HATE having my
concentration blown by someone who thinks its cute to holler' HEY HONEY,
SMILE!!' 

Off the soapbox. See you for tea and crumpets at the local chapter of the
High Neck Collar and Long Sleeve Society.

E
*****

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