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From: cheryl@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU (cheryl)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.singles
Subject: Re: career vs. relationships
Message-ID: <215@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU>
Date: Fri, 7-Feb-86 12:03:02 EST
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Posted: Fri Feb  7 12:03:02 1986
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In article <125@ttidcc.UUCP> regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard) writes:
>
>I've given up for a number of reasons, some of which Cheryl posted in her
>response.  People have so much to deal with in their lives that the first
>thing they try to do is pigeonhole other people into convenient frames of
>reference.  This is no crime, it is a survival technique.  However, the
>pigeonhole of "married" for a woman contains all kinds of assumptions that
>don't apply in my case, but were applied to me when I was married.  Because
>I signed a legal document that changed my marital status under the law,
>suddenly:
>
>	I was not a good candidate for jobs
>	I was not a good candidate for friendships
>	I was not a "serious" student
>	I did not have separate opinions
>	I could not make plans independently
>

	CORRECT.  *AND* if you are single, never married,
	all of the same above assumptions are made -- because
	people *expect* that you will someday be a *married* 
	woman.  Now these are general blind stupid assumptions
	made by blind stupid people, BUT there are many 
	NON-blind, NON-stupid people who KNOWINGLY AND PURPOSEFULLY
	*USE* these commonly held assumptions *against* bright,
	competitive young women because bright, competitive
	young wome threaten male dominance in general, and 
	bright competitive young women threaten *them* and
	*their* *male* *buddies* in particular.  I know
	what the response will be already -- the men will
	(self-servingly) call me 'paranoid', and the
	women will say, "hey, yeah, I see that going on all
	the time! what can we do about it"

Cheryl