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Subject: Re: Beach harassment (A Posteriori Expectations)
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Date: Wed, 12-Feb-86 10:43:59 EST
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Laura Creighton and Pippin Stuart have hit the nail on the head.
I have noticed a curious phenomenon in interpersonal relationships
which I call the "Game of A Posteriori Expectations."  It works
like this:   I have an expectation of you which I haven't expressed.
I wait for you to "do your thing".  *After* you do your thing, I
advise you that it was not what I expected.  Curiously, when you
do "A", I advise you that I expected you to do "not A".  But if
you do "not A", then I advise you that I expected you to do "A".
It's a neat game.  I always win (in the short run).
--Barry Kort   ...ihnp4!hounx!kort