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From: wjr@frog.UUCP (STella Calvert)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.singles
Subject: Re: career vs. relationships
Message-ID: <648@frog.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 11-Feb-86 19:30:46 EST
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Posted: Tue Feb 11 19:30:46 1986
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In article <215@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU> cheryl@batcomputer.UUCP () writes:
>	CORRECT.  *AND* if you are single, never married,
>	all of the same above assumptions are made -- because
>	people *expect* that you will someday be a *married* 
>	woman.  Now these are general blind stupid assumptions
>	made by blind stupid people, BUT there are many 
>	NON-blind, NON-stupid people who KNOWINGLY AND PURPOSEFULLY
>	*USE* these commonly held assumptions *against* bright,
>	competitive young women because bright, competitive
>	young wome threaten male dominance in general, and 
>	bright competitive young women threaten *them* and
>	*their* *male* *buddies* in particular.  I know
>	what the response will be already -- the men will
>	(self-servingly) call me 'paranoid', and the
>	women will say, "hey, yeah, I see that going on all
>	the time! what can we do about it"

And then, some of us will say that that only affects women who permit
other peoples' definitions to control their lives.  As a fully
qualified woman (8-)), I've encountered folks with that attitude.
None of them, after revealing their stupid blindness, have continued
to benefit from my considerable abilities.

So if you want to be a victim, go ahead.  And if not, don't hang out
with blind-stupids or insecure men.  There are enough of the other
sort around to provide me with friends and employers.

				STella Calvert

		Every man and every woman is a star.

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