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From: mfs@mhuxr.UUCP (Damballah Wedo)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Career vs. Relationship?
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Date: Mon, 27-Jan-86 09:37:35 EST
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> > Kenn Barry:
> > aMAZon:
> >                                                       ....... Being free
> > of these sexist stereotypes means more than being able to flaunt them; it
> > means being able to *ignore* them, to exorcise all their power to influence
> > you in any direction. The courage to step out of one's defined role is only
> > the first step. Real freedom is the ability to live one's life in complete
> > indifference to these stereotypes, to be neither attracted nor repelled by the
> > fact that some given type of behavior is "appropriate" to your sex.
> 
> To expect a double standard of the kind Kenn is proposing is
> just as sexist as denying women equal opportunity.  There
> is no reason why women should be held to a higher moral standard
> than men.  If we are truly equal, that means _e_q_u_a_l, not
> _s_e_p_a_r_a_t_e _b_u_t _d_i_f_f_e_r_e_n_t.
> 

I hear both of you, but in choosing "career vs relationship," the decision
should turn on just how much the relationship is worth to oneself. If one
commits oneself to lifetime with a partner, and a career decision conflicts
with the goals of the partnership, I expect career will lose out. If such
a committment is not present, well, this debate disappears, doesn't it?
I think Kenn's point was: that committment should not be made (or not made)
against some political standard of correctness.
-- 
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