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From: cheryl@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU (cheryl)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Mid-Life Crisis (really relationships)
Message-ID: <185@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU>
Date: Mon, 27-Jan-86 13:57:43 EST
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Posted: Mon Jan 27 13:57:43 1986
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In article <1364@vax1.fluke.UUCP> tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee) writes:
>
>We all know many aspects of today's stereotypical roles suck the big one,
>but don't we also see some light, some change?  If we give up on marriage
>the institution will die, wouldn't it better to redefine societies
>expectations of marriage?
>
	Which societies are we going to change first? The DAR?
	the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign's 
	"Women's Club"?  That will be a challenge.  How would
	you like it if your SO's boss's wife told you that if
	you didn't join the "Women's club" you would probably damage your
	SO's career (and of course your only source of livelihood
	or happiness and fulfillment)?  How would you like it
	if your faculty advisor at University of Chicago assumed
	you were *not* serious about making a career of your research,
	just because you happened to be married?  How would you
	like to deal with male graduate students who tell you that
	you ought to be having children by now (instead of competing
	successfully with them for grades & grants)?  How would
	you like to, in addition to putting all your effort into
	proving your worth, and enjoying your work to it's fullest,
	finding that your advisor asks you to babysit for his
	kids "