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From: dwb@hal.UUCP (D. W. Brescan)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Careers vs. Relationships
Message-ID: <157@hal.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 29-Jan-86 14:10:54 EST
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Posted: Wed Jan 29 14:10:54 1986
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     Hi!  This is my first posting to the net, although I have been
reading it for about six months.

     I find the discussion concerning careers vs. relationship very
interesting, and it prompted some introspection into my own life.  
I am currently in school, training for a career.  When I graduate,
my spouse, having not had the opportunity for advanced education that 
I have had, will quit work to raise our family while I persue my 
career and provide for us financially (although I never expect to
be exceedingly wealthy since I refuse to work extra hours at the
expense of time with my family).  We have both discussed this at
length and this is what we both want; we have never really 
considered any alternative.

     HOWEVER, if, for some reason, I had to choose between my 
spouse and (hopefully) future family or my career, I would choose
my family.  If I had to either quit school or lose my spouse, 
I would quit school.  I guess that loving, being loved, closeness,
etc. is much more important to me than money, fame, power, etc.
I guess that I also feel more of a commitment to my spouse than
to my chosen career field.

     Please note that my situation is somewhat different than the
one described by Anne.  I have been married for five years; I'm not
talking about a four-week romance.  

     I guess this is enough for a first posting, I just wanted to
share my feelings on the subject.

				DWB
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