Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site oucs.UUCP Path: utzoo!decvax!bellcore!ulysses!burl!clyde!cbosgd!oucs!tim From: tim@oucs.UUCP (Tim Thompson) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: Re: Career vs. Relationship? Message-ID: <51@oucs.UUCP> Date: Wed, 29-Jan-86 11:54:34 EST Article-I.D.: oucs.51 Posted: Wed Jan 29 11:54:34 1986 Date-Received: Fri, 31-Jan-86 01:47:44 EST References: <481@ssc-vax.UUCP> <2340@reed.UUCP> <2341@reed.UUCP> <8653@amdcad.UUCP> <181@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU> Distribution: na Organization: Ohio University, Athens Lines: 36 > I think that it is beautiful and wonderful for a man to give up his > independence, economic autonomy, career, and education for his woman. > I do *not* think that women should do this. It is beneath a woman's > dignity to give up everything she stands for in the interests of an > harmonious domestic life. > Cheryl I am having a hard time believing the double standard that is exhibited on the part of this individual. You take the stance that it's okay for a male to live his life for a woman, but the inverse is not a possibility. In my own marriage, my wife and I try to share *everything* as equally as possible. We will be moving after I gradute this spring to who knows where, and we will be going there *together*. We discussed this in-depth *BEFORE* we got married, and if we could not have worked it out, we would not have got married. By the way, the reason we reached this decision is because my field of endeavor pays quite a bit more than her chosen field. However, if the opposite was true, I would have given up my career and followed her wherever she went. I guess that's what love is all about. Another small addendum: Once we move, my wife will try to find employment, not just sit around the house and be "domestic", as you put it. In a way, I feel sorry for you. I sincerely hope that someday you will find the love that my wife and I have. Maybe then some of you bitterness will be softened. -- Tim Thompson 414 Morton Hall Ohio University Athens, Ohio 45701 {bgsuvax,osu-eddie,cuuxb,cbdkc1,amc1,cbosgd}!oucs!tim Disclaimer: If the University finds out what I'm doing, they probably couldn't care less.