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From: whitehur@tymix.UUCP (Pamela K. Whitehurst)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Careers vs. Relationships
Message-ID: <639@tymix.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 31-Jan-86 12:48:11 EST
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Posted: Fri Jan 31 12:48:11 1986
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In article <157@hal.UUCP> dwb@hal.UUCP (D. W. Brescan) writes:
>     I find the discussion concerning careers vs. relationship very
>interesting, and it prompted some introspection into my own life.  
>I am currently in school, training for a career.  When I graduate,
>my spouse, having not had the opportunity for advanced education that 
>I have had, will quit work to raise our family while I persue my 
>career and provide for us financially (although I never expect to
>be exceedingly wealthy since I refuse to work extra hours at the
>expense of time with my family).  We have both discussed this at
>length and this is what we both want; we have never really 
>considered any alternative.

It is great to see people planning a future together. Just don't get
too caught up in this being your "plans for life".  It is easy to see
that, after several years of school, you want to just work and support
your family.  I can also understand your spouse's desire to quit work
and raise a family.  Keep talking.  Make it easy for one side to
say "this isn't what I thought it would be like."

Remember to prepare for changes. Thinking about what will happen if the
only wage earner is disabled, or dies, is not much fun.  Coming up with
an alternative plan takes some of the risk out of the job of full time 
caregiver.
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