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From: jeanette@randvax.UUCP (Jeanette Haritan)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Career vs. Relationship?
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Date: Thu, 30-Jan-86 09:38:59 EST
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Posted: Thu Jan 30 09:38:59 1986
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>I think that it is beautiful and wonderful for a man to give up his
>independence, economic autonomy, career, and education for his woman.
>I do *not* think that women should do this.  It is beneath a woman's 
>dignity to give up everything she stands for in the interests of an 
>harmonious domestic life.  If a man wants a well-kept house, a nice
>dinner when he comes home from work, and his kids to be well looked
>after, then he can damn well do it all himself.  Me, I'll eat out
>of the fridge (or just plain eat out), clean my house once a year
>(whether it needs it or not), and avoid the concept of progeny until
>I can afford a governess or something.  Ellen isn't being selfish,
>she's being realistic.  Whether a man is a wimp or not is irrelevant,
>except to other men.  What really matters is what he does for his
>woman.
>
>Cheryl

I am in full agreement with Cheryl's first sentence, but I would be very
interested to hear an elaboration on the rest.  Not many people can have
their cake and eat it too.  If a woman expects a man to do all this for her,
why can't a woman be considerate enough to do the same.

You sure love to put women in a *selfish* category, don't you?  Give a
little, take a little.

jlh