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From: terry@nrcvax.UUCP (Terry Grevstad)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Mid-Life Crisis (really relationships)
Message-ID: <479@nrcvax.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 30-Jan-86 19:45:36 EST
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Posted: Thu Jan 30 19:45:36 1986
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References: <481@ssc-vax.UUCP> <2340@reed.UUCP> <168@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU>
Reply-To: terry@nrcvax.UUCP (Terry Grevstad)
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cheryl@batcomputer.UUCP () says:
>In article <2340@reed.UUCP> thoma@reed.UUCP (Ann Muir Thomas) writes:
>>(The original article was about a mid-30's woman who was discovering that
>>a good career alone is not enough for happiness.)

>.... throwing yourself away on some man isn't going to
>make you happy either.
>
>Cheryl

"throwing yourself away on some man"????

Excuse me, but I must take exception.

Marrying because you *love* someone and he *loves* you, is not
"throwing yourself away."  To me it represents the obvious next step
in a maturing individual.  After taking the step from childhood into
adulthood, and learning how to handle yourself, your individuality,
your decisions, your finances, your life, the next step is learning
how to mesh those things with someone else's--the true give and take
of two individuals interacting.  The real proving ground for that kind
of knowledge, maturity and commitment is marriage.

Granted, if you're not ready for that step DON'T TAKE IT!  But if
you've mastered the rest and you are more than ready to move on, you
are going to continue to be unhappy until you do.  The key here is
finding a partner  who is also ready to move on to the next step.

Cheryl, I'm sorry you got burned, but the same fire that burned you is
keeping me toasty warm and happy.  So I don't think you have the right
to put it out.

*************    FLAME OFF (I guess :-})    ***************




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