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From: jeffw@midas.UUCP (Jeff Winslow)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Career vs. Relationship?
Message-ID: <120@midas.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 1-Feb-86 19:37:09 EST
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Posted: Sat Feb  1 19:37:09 1986
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In article <181@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU> cheryl@batcomputer.UUCP () writes:
>
   [with a little editing on my part]
>
>I think that it is beautiful and wonderful for a woman to give up her
>independence, economic autonomy, career, and education for her man.
>I do *not* think that men should do this.  It is beneath a man's 
>dignity to give up everything he stands for in the interests of an 
>harmonious domestic life. 
   [...]
>        What really matters is what she does for her man.

Pretty obnoxious, huh? And all I did was exchange genders. A sexist by any
other name...

Seriously, I think that Ellen is perfectly right, and not at all obnoxious,
for insisting on choosing her home according to what is best for her career.
And she doesn't need a load of questionable reasoning about past injustices
to women to justify herself (past? what about present?). I think she's being
a little hard on her friend - why shouldn't he be disappointed that she doesn't
want to live in the same city? - but of course she shouldn't let that
disappointment weaken her resolve. A systems analyst should be able to get
a job in Portland with no trouble - if her presence is really that important
to him, why doesn't he move here? Now I'm prying into where I really have
no business, but you get the idea.

					Jeff Winslow