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From: apak@oddjob.UUCP (Adrian Kent)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Re: Career vs. Relationship?
Message-ID: <1153@oddjob.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 2-Feb-86 04:46:49 EST
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Posted: Sun Feb  2 04:46:49 1986
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In article <191@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU> cheryl@batcomputer.UUCP () writes:
>	Look, every hotshot
>	undergrad in the country thinks he's going
>	to bring his sweetie away with him and be
>	the big married man, and in doing so, he
>	is suddenly oh, so very wise and kind to
>	his lady love by telling her he'll let her
>	work, or he'll let her go to grad school.
>
>	Every year another crop of them, lemmings all.
>	There's just nothing you can say to them.
  
      At the risk of breaking with net tradition, I agree with cheryl. In all
the (as-good-as-)married couples from my year in college, that's basically
what happened. I don't think I like cheryl's definition of success (what's
all this about affording nice gifts for your family, giving seminars, and
getting paid to go to South America? Is that really what we all ought to
be aiming for?), but the only women I'd call successful have been those who've
put other goals ahead of their relationships with men. 
      So, a question: If you take cheryl's postings as generalised statements,
rather than referring to particular individuals, do you think they're right?
That is, do you think her advice is sound, statistically speaking? 
                                              ak

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