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From: seltzer@dali.berkeley.edu.BERKELEY.EDU (Linda &)
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Subject: Re: Mid-Life Crisis (really relationships)
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Date: Thu, 6-Feb-86 22:10:38 EST
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Posted: Thu Feb  6 22:10:38 1986
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Keywords: "Throwing yourself away"

Someone wrote that marrying someone you love isn't "throwing yourself
away".  The problem is that there are some women who do throw away
all autonomy and individuality in order to get married to the man they
love.  I have met women who have suddenly quit school or a job in order
to move in and live with a man (in some cases the men were ambivalent about
this, but the women insisted on moving in anyway) who lived far away.
I used to share a house with a man, and one day his girlfriend showed
up at our door, from LONDON, and moved in!  ... with no real notice.
She brought her clothes and some personal effects, and just left
the rest of her stuff in her dorm room in London.  She just stayed
at our house all the time and did housework, trying to get him to marry
her, and it took him six months to get her to move out!  And this was
an architect!  This is a little bit of an extreme case, but some
women feel really desperate to get married, whatever sacrifice it
may take, and it's this attitude that Cheryl and others think is
ridiculous.