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From: dwb@hal.UUCP (D. W. Brescan)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Careers vs. Relationships
Message-ID: <163@hal.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 7-Feb-86 12:42:26 EST
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Posted: Fri Feb  7 12:42:26 1986
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Organization: CWRU Dept. Epid. & Biostat., Cleveland, OH
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Organization: CWRU Medical School, Cleveland

In article <5921@tekecs.UUCP> waltt@tekecs.UUCP (Walt Tucker) writes:
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>  Oh, yeah, one last point.  Family.  We have both decided we want one.
>We have gotten pretty used to two incomes, and I would prefer that Linda
>go back to work after the first kid (I do have some mixed feelings, though).  
>However, I told her if she wants to stay home, fine -- if she wants to
>work, fine.  I'll support her either way and try and do my part to pitch
>in and help (since I have a flexible schedule and she doesn't I can probably
>make things somewhat easier).  She realizes the economic and career 
>implications of quitting work (we've talked about it), but we are still a
>year or two away from having to face that decision.
>

   It sounds like you and your wife have a great relationship, with a
lot of mutual respect.  However, you fail to mention another possibility
in child-rearing: what if YOU wanted to stay home and be the primary
care-taker.  After all, you did say that she liked her job better.  How
would she respond to that option?

   I realize that this is net.women and that we usually discuss women's
options here, but it seems unfair that the man is always expect to provide
an income and does not have the choice of being caretaker.

DWB
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