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From: drew@ukma.UUCP (Andrew Lawson)
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Subject: Spanking
Message-ID: <2768@ukma.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 27-Feb-86 23:05:09 EST
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Posted: Thu Feb 27 23:05:09 1986
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Reply-To: drew@ukma.UUCP (Andrew Lawson)
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In article <58@randvax.UUCP> jeanette@rand-unix.UUCP (Jeanette Haritan) writes:
>In article <239@hoqax.UUCP> twb@hoqax.UUCP (BEATTIE) writes:
>>While I don't think an occasional spanking is particularly
>>harmful, I also don't think it is necessary.
>>I feel a child can understand your disaproval of their behavior
>>thru your tone of voice 
>>
>True, but pretty soon the child realizes that the tone of voice is just
>mommy and/or daddy spouting off again.:-)  I really believe that a
>spanking will benefit more, simply because it stings more, and the child
>doesn't become bored with the discipline, for example, you can yell 'till
>you're blue in the face, and (I've had it happen) the child develops a
>smug look (thar she blows!).  He's BORED!  He knows that that is the worst
>it will get.
>When I whack his buns, HE KNOWS "hey...I  think I blew it!).
>
Here I agree with the latter view, at least in my situation.
I have a five year old who is very strong willed.  Usually,
the stern talking to stops whatever the problem is, however,
after a few times of being talked to in a short time, she hardly
notices.  Then the spanking (calm - not a sudden attack) gets
her back in line.

The odd thing about it is that she doesn't seem to mind the
actual pain of the spanking nearly as much as the unavoidable
recognition that she got caught and is not in charge.

Again, this is my own situation.  I'm new to the business (instant
family) and don't know whether this is unusual.


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Drew Lawson
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