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From: eirik@tekchips.UUCP (Eirik Fuller)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Truth is stranger than doctrine
Message-ID: <83@tekchips.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 21-Feb-86 20:26:22 EST
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Posted: Fri Feb 21 20:26:22 1986
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In article <167@axiom.UUCP> ramberg@axiom.UUCP (Mark Ramberg) writes:
> ...
>She had apparently been listening, for she was chortling quietly
>into her napkin. I was intrigued. Excusing myself, I left my comfy
>nest of friends and, ego naked to the swords of rejection, approached
>the lady and asked if I might join her for a libation. She politely
>declined, indicating that she was waiting to meet a friend...
> ...
>All of a sudden, she appeared at the table,
>smiled sweetly, and said " You ought to try a little harder". At this
>point she playfully ( but very accurately) tossed her half empty drink
>into my lap ...

At this point, I would have been severely tempted to suggest that
further effort would be wasted ...

>Now I submit to the group, how do I avoid dry cleaning bills? What social
>conventions did I violate? Is this an isolated incedent or are the net
>women just more direct than the mass of women? Personally, I would never
>press beyond an initial rejection, but I can understand the confusion.

I don't think you violated any conventions, particularly in view of
the fact that she made the next move.  Had you asked her again, with
no prompting on her part, that would be a different story.  Also, it
your initial approach was probably justified by her behavior, since it
seems your interpretation was reasonably accurate.  

I can't say I like the attitude suggested by her behavior, that it
was up to you to pester her.  I tend to take things at face value,
and it just isn't worth my time and trouble to figure out when no
means yes.  Even if it were, I would hate to guess wrong when no
means no.

The fact that she finally pursued you actually makes a good case for
leaving a woman alone after one rejection, and leaving the next move
to her.  I'm not sure I like the way she pursued you.  It seems a
little rude.