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From: daver@felix.UUCP (Dave Richards)
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Subject: Re: Greener Pastures and Topics,Bitte!
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Date: Mon, 24-Feb-86 16:23:33 EST
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In article <3172@sdcc3.UUCP> co20wta@sdcc3.UUCP (Bruce Jones) writes:
>I don't think it has anything to do with one's expectations.  Rather
>the divorce rate grows out of a rapidly changing social scene and
>the individual's definition of her/his place in it.  As the
>definition changes for each of the partners they usually grow apart.
>Add to this a lack of social and economic pressure pushing ideas
>like staying together for the kid's sake and you have a high divorce
>rate.  
>
>Bruce Jones

I think it's interesting that the law (in California) requires a trial
one-year separation before a divorce is granted (I think), but what
requirement is there for an engagement before marriage?  I have not
heard of any, but I've known of several people who have gotten married
having known each other less than a year. (while they're still in their
teens yet!)

I'm a strong believer in very long engagements, but even so, I have yet to
seriously consider marriage.  Why?  Because I can't imagine making the
promise to love someone the rest of my life.  Isn't it a lot to ask to
expect two people not to change over a 60 year span?  As far as likes,
dislikes, personality, etc.?  I note with amusement some of the newer
ceremonies have replaced the phrase, "'till death do you part."
The funniest one I've heard was, "'till the relationship shall end."
What kind of commitment is that?! (rhetorical question)
Oh well, at least it's honest.

Whimsically,
Dave "the Monk" Richards