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From: falk@sun.uucp (Ed Falk)
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Subject: Re: Saying no
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Date: Sun, 23-Feb-86 19:28:58 EST
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> 
> Ah, but what do you do when she (or he, of course) says something like
> "Gee, I'd really love to, but I've got to ..."? Is that a no or a yes-
> but-some-other-time. 

Still counts as a "no".  I had one woman keep me stringing along for more than
6 months before I realized that no matter how disappointed she sounded when
she was busy, and now matter how badly she wanted to see me "some other time",
that in reality she just wasn't going to go out with me.  I don't think
she was playing games or anything -- she was just too nice to hurt
hurt my feelings (a lot of women don't realize that a simple
"thanks, but I'm not really intersted" is lots better than excuses).

Remember, even if coincidence works against you, and she really is
busy every time you ask here out, she could always arrange another
date or call you someday.